Edit: To make matters worse, she tried to steal my car last night when I was asleep. My mom stopped her before she could finish backing out of the driveway.
I have mentioned how bad my home life is before on my old domain (I don’t know if anyone even reads these things anyway) but everything has gotten much worse. Here’s a bit of a backstory.
My sister has some serious mental issues as well as a heroin problem. Almost every day in this house is a nightmare. She screams, slams doors, calls all of us names, and steals whatever she can get her hands on. Unfortunately, because of my limited income, I can’t just go get an apartment. It has to be income based, which have waiting lists. I really hope one is available so I can move this year or the next.
My parents have done nothing but try to help my sister, but my dad keeps handing her money which is not the right thing to do for a drug addict. My mom has taken her to a psychiatrist and got her on medication to try to help her get off of the drugs, which my mom has to pay for out of pocket (very expensive). It seems obvious to me that she’s still on drugs by her behavior. Some nights I have been in tears because of how horribly she treats all of us. My dad got so angry at her screaming at him that he looked like he was going to hit her. My dad refuses to kick her out because he feels bad for her. My mom believes in tough love and her and dad get into arguments about this all the time. He says he can’t just put her out on the street because she’s his daughter. What he doesn’t realize is, he’s not doing her any favors by allowing her to stay here and give her money. This gives her no incentive to change. We wonder if she ever will, because when we moved out here to Arizona, we left her behind in Pennsylvania. She lived on the streets for a year, and my parents allowed her to come here to stay with us because she said she’d change. She hasn’t.
She lives like one of those people you see on that show Hoarders, piles of stuff everywhere including rotting food. She has burnt holes and stained the brand new carpet in her bedroom. She just doesn’t care. Her boyfriend (who she breaks up with and gets back together with every week which is even more drama), is also a problem. He was basically living in our house for months and sneaking in her bedroom window until my dad told him he’d call the police because he didn’t want him in this house. I don’t think she has any business driving either, because she keeps getting ticket after ticket and ignores them. Debt collectors keep calling because of a medical bill she can’t pay and refuses to try to work something out. She can’t keep a job because she won’t show up. She only has two things on her mind: boyfriend and drugs.
Fast forward to tonight, a police officer showed up at our door asking for her and her boyfriend. I was outside and told him they weren’t home and didn’t know where they were. He said she was walking around Walmart for 3 hours acting very suspicious. A woman claimed she stole her wallet and ran. The cop asked her if he could search her, and she declined. He couldn’t do it because he was the only cop and I guess another cop would have to be there to witness it or something. He also asked her to show him her arms which she also refused. You can tell by looking at her she has a drug problem, and she of course didn’t want to show him the needle marks on her arms. The cop unfortunately said he had no proof that she stole the wallet, but had a strong suspicion that she did. He said if he had the proof he definitely would have arrested her. We all provided the cop with her history and he took her license plate number down and had her boyfriend’s as well. He gave us his number to call and told us to call 911 if she starts to scream and disrupt the house again. The cop said he wanted to do what he could to help us because he has a sister that has a drug problem and knows what we’re going through.
I really hope all this stuff catches up to her and she goes to jail. I think that is the only thing that will help her. We were telling the cop that back in Pennsylvania, she was transporting heroin with other people in her car and only got off with a paraphernalia charge. He thought that was crazy and said they are tougher out here. I think jail is what she needs. She’s gone far too long without punishment for all the stealing, harassment, and fraud she’s committed. It just makes me sick and embarrassed that I’m even related to someone like this. My mom is trying to get an apartment back in Pennsylvania because she can’t take it anymore. I wish my dad would stop allowing her to stay here because as long as she does, nothing will change. :-<